Quick Thoughts
Small thoughts and messages not worthy of their own pages but still something I feel like putting out there. Largely curated and possibly lightly edited from my posts and discussions in the WFM server.
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This is a little nitpicky but I feel that “the sub it actually the one in control” is only half the story and an outdated attitude. There are two parts to a dynamic.
Yes, you get to set limits and boundaries but so does the dom. You are defining one bubble you’re giving up control in, and the dominant can narrow that bubble to their own comfort level, too.
That’s the point of negotiation, making sure both parties are comfortable and into what you’re going to be doing.
It’s frequently framed around the sub because the sub is intentionally putting themselves in a vulnerable position, but you’re both people and you both get a say in the limits, boundaries, and what you enjoy doing together.
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