Quick Thoughts
Small thoughts and messages not worthy of their own pages but still something I feel like putting out there. Largely curated and possibly lightly edited from my posts and discussions in the WFM server.
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I don’t do punishment dynamics. I will absolutely game any system I’m in. I will make choices that aren’t good for “future me” or the dynamic. So if I want to be in a dynamic at all I have to be up front and honest about what I can and can’t do, and what I am and am not doing and why and be able to work with someone who can work with that.
I don’t outright disobey. I don’t have room to disobey if I’m not in a punishment dynamic. I either do as I’m told or I’m breaking the dynamic I wanted to be in in the first place.
If I do disobey, either accidentally or intentionally, for any reason, we have a real conversation about what went wrong and how to prevent it going forward. Were the expectations too high? Do I need a break from the dynamic? Do I just need to set up better reminders (frequently the issue)? Was it something unavoidable due to external reasons? etc.
I actually don’t like the word “punishment” and will frequently replace it with “consequences” since it feels more accurate for most uses. But I get that the community as a whole tends to prefer “punishment” due to the naughty nature of the word (“naughty” being another word I don’t like and never use, lol).
That all being said, I am fine with games with consequences as long as they are limited in scope.
I also have a suffering kink and what I consider to be light masochism (although I’ve been told it’s not that light), so I can get myself in some real trouble trying to scratch an itch in those types of dynamics, lol
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