Quick Thoughts

Small thoughts and messages not worthy of their own pages but still something I feel like putting out there. Largely curated and possibly lightly edited from my posts and discussions in the WFM server.

• If you’re having trouble safewording, something that you can try is practice sessions where the goal is to use your safeword. Not necessarily to hit your limits to do so, but like set up a plan to have him check in and require you to recite the safeword, or require you to use it well before you hit any limits, and then praise, debrief, and decide together if you want to continue or not. Just until you get comfortable saying it 🤷‍♀️

  Think of it like this…
  You can always stop, check in, and keep going.
  It’s a hell of a lot harder to come back from a problem if you’ve gone past the limit and now something is wrong.
  Safeword early

  Once you have a better handle on when you should be safewording you can push how long you go before doing it.

  Safewords don’t displease good dominants.
  You’re going to displease him a hell of a lot more if you don’t safeword when you should have and he ends up hurting you or going over your limits.

  You being able to safeword and communicate effectively takes the worry off of the dominant. They can go as hard as they want, secure in the knowledge that if they push too hard and get too close to your limits you’ll show them the boundary before they hit it.

  Source: subsplace discord

  February 28, 2025, 9:02 pm
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