Quick Thoughts
Small thoughts and messages not worthy of their own pages but still something I feel like putting out there. Largely curated and possibly lightly edited from my posts and discussions in the WFM server.
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In response to a new sub scared about a first punishment
If this is a new aspect to your dynamic I’d like to remind you to examine the effects of it after the fact.
Does it enhance the dynamic? Or did it detract? Or neutral?
Did it have it’s intended effect? If it’s truly a punishment, then it should modify your behavior to avoid the thing that caused it. Or was it “funishment” (I hate that word, lol), where you both know it won’t actually modify your behavior but you want to do it anyway.Do you want to let your dominant do behavior modification, because if so, punishment is only a tiny piece of a much bigger puzzle and often doesn’t work because it isn’t applied correctly by most people.
Punishment dynamics are common but aren’t required. I personally will not enter into a punishment dynamic because I have a suffering kink and no matter how miserable it sounds… it also sounds hot 😂 So I will get myself into actual trouble. Not like “oh no more punishment” but like “we have a real problem here” trouble.
Punishment and its application is something that is negotiated, and I feel like a lot of people forget that 😅 so just wanted to remind you that after it’s happened, think about it, determine how you feel about it, and share your feelings on the matter with your dominant.