Quick Thoughts
Small thoughts and messages not worthy of their own pages but still something I feel like putting out there. Largely curated and possibly lightly edited from my posts and discussions in the WFM server.
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We used the shoe lace flogger tonight. Not extensively, more testing needed. But it wasn’t as intense as I expected. The aglets did sting, but not any worse than some of my other floggers. When used as a sensation toy, just dragged over my skin, it was a different and cool feeling because the sparkly laces were kind of scratchy.
The aglets did leave little points of sting.
Never used it on my back at all and it’s use was brief overall but Tim was happy with it and I’m up for trying it out more, too.
Guess I should finish securing the handle. -
Canes are my favorite
I just love how deep they feel. I’m not a huge fan of surface sting, especially all by itself. Although the stripes are neat, too 😄 -
What’s on my mind during a scene? Not a ton which is why I enjoy it so much. I’ve always got a dozen things going on but not in a scene. Everything else is just gone like it never existed in the first place. Really great for stress relief.
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It’s always interesting to me when I scream. Actually got a bit of a sore throat from it today.
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Just want to brag that Tim came over for lunch and I spent most of that time bent over the bed while he spanked and paddled me. Getting to spend the rest of the work day with a subtle reminder of the lunchtime activities. ❤️🔥
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I like a hybrid of 24/7 dynamics. I have too much going on in my life to devote that much time to it.
Tim and I are hammering out a “24/7-lite” but right now he’s too busy to think about it too much. I have a couple daily tasks and that’s it right now. But hopefully in a few weeks things will settle down and that can expand a bit. -
I have done online stuff when I was younger. Online and phone. I really prefer in person and use online for communication and planning. I’m not great at following directions when I’m physically alone.
Like, I generally want to do as I’m told but I get really self conscious and feel stupid awkward physically by myself and it all just kind of falls apart.
But in person it’s a ton easier for me to go with it. -
Sore. I asked for a less intense session tonight and. And it wasn’t really less intense. Not complaining, though.
I always find it really interesting when I scream.I’m very vocal in a session. I just kind of let myself make whatever noises my body wants to make. He finds it useful and amusing and that’s what it’s all about, right?
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So like 10ish years ago I sewed myself a travel case for my canes. I originally used some ribbon to close it, but that ribbon ripped off and I’ve just been using whatever to tie it closed for years. Since I’ve been seeing Tim and actually needing to travel with my canes again, I’m replacing the broken off ribbon with some double-sided velcro. And I keep stabbing myself with the needle 😠
I very much prefer machine sewing to hand sewing but the velcro is pretty thick.
It’s looking nice though -
In response to having that feeling that saying “no” is risky and may turn a dominant off…
That is a real feeling but one that you have to manage because you a responsibility to yourself and your dom to keep yourself safe. I remember feeling that when I was young and new, but experience (and good doms) have taught me that a dom gets to go all out and really push you as hard as they want, if they’re aware of your limits and also secure in the knowledge that you can tell them when you’re at your limits or being asked to do something that you feel is unsafe (aka: safewording). It’s a fantasy to never say “no”. A sexy one, which is why limits are discussed in advance, but sometimes surprises happen. If your subspace prevents that, then your limits need to be stricter and communicated clearly in advance to prevent you from being put in a situation that would upset your dom if they find out later that they went too far. -
Tim is well rested and most of the things he’s been stressed about are wrapping up so he’s in a great mood tonight.
😅
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A million years ago I used to be able to draw.
I’ve always been good at drawing what I can see. So that was actually a stuffed bunny I tied up with shoe lace for that drawing 😅
I do envy people who can just make up drawings from their heads -
I don’t really do bdsm roleplay. I enjoy being grounded in the reality of it. Online or otherwise.
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So Tim & I were going to do more D/s stuff. He wouldn’t give me anything to do for him until I got taxes done (which is complicated and takes a while due to the small side businesses I do). Finally got taxes done and I’m just like…Task?? Gimme gimme gimme.
And if it’s another boring “good for me” task I’m just going to have to reevaluate this whole relationship 😂 -
Brought up possibly increasing our d/s domain to Tim last night and he’s also interested in doing so. Been dating 6 months and things have been going well for us.
Lots of discussion needed about how to fit this into our lives and what will work for us. I’m always busy and he’s going through a divorce and has a kid he needs time for. But… e x c i t e
We were doing a tiny task every day until the divorce started and he’s starting to give tasks again as he’s starting to get through the emotions over the unexpected break-up. I’m looking forward to doing more and handing over a larger part of my day to whatever he’d like.
Just really needed to tell someone because I’m just . . . so excited. Trying to be patient about it since there’s still quite a bit to negotiate at this point and I don’t want to push on it.
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When I make tasks I like to do positive mantras. Something to focus on to bring up the mood.
When my dom likes to make tasks for me, he mostly picks things relevant to discussions or play we’d had recently. -
Face slapping is deliciously hot when done well. It does require some safety awareness. But . . . 🔥
