Quick Thoughts
Small thoughts and messages not worthy of their own pages but still something I feel like putting out there. Largely curated and possibly lightly edited from my posts and discussions in the WFM server.
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So yeah, I have a huge document that is like a starting place for what I do and do not like and why, with hard/medium/soft limits and things that are explicitly on the table and enjoyed. As a starting place to discuss what we want to do. I didn’t like checklists. Not enough nuance 😅
(checks)
It is 11 pages long (technically 12 but pg 12 is like a single line of text)I always read through it and update it before giving it out. Things do change.
Also in case you’re thinking of doing it – some people really don’t like things like that 😅
Anyone who wouldn’t isn’t going to be right for me anyway, but someone was talking about something like this on reddit once and the responses were all over the map. Some people really hated the idea.They didn’t like it because getting a document like that was a lot of reading, and less discussion. While I definitely intended it as a starting place – here’s my information, let’s discuss – it can easily be interpreted as a replacement for discussion, whether or not it’s intended that way.
The checklists are the classic way of doing it. I just didn’t like the “yes no maybe” way of doing it.
Writing is also a ton easier to get awkward things out, and once it’s out it’s easier to answer questions at least. -
It was sometime in college that I just like started telling guys after a bit of time “so I like you and I’d like to do things” because I did not have the skills to effectively flirt. It wasn’t until much later I learned that most people don’t pick up on flirting that well anyway, so I was just cutting through all the crap at the start
But every time I did, regardless of the outcome, they were happy I just straight up said something 😂
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Doms are the same idiots the rest of us are. People in general are really bad at picking up on subtlety/hints.
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I’ve been repairing my horsehair flogger. Four of the braids came undone, so I had to redo them and all the tips had gotten matted. I never thought I’d be brushing out my flogger. Okay so I used a comb, but still.
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I have a suffering kink 😅
I enjoy suffering but only as long as it’s for someone else’s enjoyment -
I find tasks without penalty lines less interesting.
I get turned on when I make a mistake and find myself now facing a larger qty of lines… -
I grew up where “weird” was a compliment. Weird was cool and interesting and unique, while normal was boring. So it doesn’t bother me that I’m different, in a lot of ways. I meet people with a lot of similarities to me, but every once in a while I’m just like “this is how I do things, or this is what has to happen because of course I have to be difficult” 😂
But fuck I get really jealous sometimes of all the women who actually enjoy penetrative sex. It looks like so much fun and every time I do it I’m like… you had fun, right? Yay. Let’s not do this again for a few years. Yeah I kind of enjoyed it, but … still, let’s not do this again for a few years.
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I identify really hard with the “submissive” label. I don’t know what else I really identify that strongly with 😂
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I may actually be gray ace but after exploring all the labels I decided I just don’t care enough to figure it out 😅
Labels can be helpful. I used to just say I wasn’t that into penetrative sex and after exploring the labels I’m just like… still just saying that. 😂
Based on what I have read, if you think are you are, then you probably are, but if you don’t want to use the label, that’s cool too, it’s just there to help -
[WFM Server]
It really does mean a lot to me that I’m able to provide and protect a safe space for you all ❤️It was really hard in the beginning. But now it’s really easy and a lot of fun
You guys are a blast, tbh. Catching up on history when I’ve been afk is always a high point 🙂
People have commented on it like – wow you read everything??
And while I feel I need to for moderation purposes, I genuinely do enjoy seeing what everyone has been up toThat’s been a fight sometimes 😂
Like. This is a kink server, but it’s also a community server. We’re real people with lives.
The desperate horny folk who join and don’t get the response they want from us tend to just disappear 😂 -
The first words that went through my head was definitely “why, what did I do??”
But it was also then “oh, he’s just being a jerk” 😂Tim was giggling so much when he set it, he was so pleased with himself, too.
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I genuinely wish I could make “being sick” a hard limit, but life doesn’t care about limits or safewords I guess
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I have a husband and a boyfriend and they take up a ton of my attention. I also have some best friends I see every week.
I don’t have time for another romantic interest in my life. Like I’m open to it if it falls in my lap but I am not looking
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I am highly selective of who I sub to and don’t sub to random strangers online. I am Tim’s ❤️
And his only for the foreseeable future. I’m poly but also polysaturated and not looking for anyone else. -
I really wanted to share the icon I made for Tim’s and my private server 😄
It looks a ton better at the tiny server icon size
but I’m kind of excited about it anyway 😅
This is what I told him when I gave him the image. I definitely think about these things too much 😅 But I’m really happy with it all the same
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I definitely wanted something with the “B” tilted and up against the T as a representation of keeping me a little off balance, but close and stable. I accidentally landed on the Serif T that looks like it’s even holding the B and loved that. I thought the decorative ampersand almost looks like rope or ties with it almost reaching for the B…
I messed with different colors but kept coming back to red, it felt really right for the D/s dynamic, a little evil and fun, and passionate.
